tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593929301399746696.post7672099977392042313..comments2023-07-04T07:31:53.182-04:00Comments on My Kind of Happy: What Would You Do?Theresahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07453341063690830681noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593929301399746696.post-15406840261875081892012-03-06T12:35:50.876-05:002012-03-06T12:35:50.876-05:00I agree Theresa. You'll make the right decisio...I agree Theresa. You'll make the right decision. :)3guysandagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094837939855719737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593929301399746696.post-73714029394173672532012-03-05T14:52:44.528-05:002012-03-05T14:52:44.528-05:00Sara, I completely agree with your idea of "f...Sara, I completely agree with your idea of "family". We definitely have friends who are much closer to and love our children far more than my in-laws ever will. My kids have no shortage of people who love them as much as Roman and I do. The problem with speaking up about ANYTHING is that they simply disregard. Our opinions are of no value; therefore nothing ever changes. It's too bad, but I feel responsible for my children whether Roman is willing to make a stand or not. I feel like I'm letting them down if I don't demand equal treatment or no contact. It's unfortunate and you're right, it is their loss for sure. Thanks for your help!Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453341063690830681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593929301399746696.post-20056724693954966932012-03-05T14:47:50.104-05:002012-03-05T14:47:50.104-05:00I tend to agree with you Tina. I know my husband d...I tend to agree with you Tina. I know my husband doesn't want to completely sever the relationship, but I don't think they deserve to make all the rules and act in a way that we wouldn't allow anyone else to in our home. I gave up caring about my own relationship with them a while ago and I know that I am definitely healthier for it. My kids deserve better and it's my job to maintain their well-being right? Thanks so much for your input!Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453341063690830681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593929301399746696.post-14324260648182349312012-03-05T14:27:39.633-05:002012-03-05T14:27:39.633-05:00I'm fortunate that my MIL is one of my closest...I'm fortunate that my MIL is one of my closest friends. I think that you should give up trying, even if you think that will hurt the kids and Roman. It is clear that their relationship with their grandparents is unhealthy. I know how it must hurt to see one child favored over the other(s). I would let them make the first move and leave it at that. If they don't, then too bad for them. You'll have a healthier family on your end for it.3guysandagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094837939855719737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2593929301399746696.post-40843247886133480582012-03-05T08:15:18.517-05:002012-03-05T08:15:18.517-05:00Theresa,
I have struggled with similar issues with...Theresa,<br />I have struggled with similar issues with my actual family. Without getting into too much detail, let me just tell you that I realized long ago that family is challenging and brings us an opportunity to embrace some unrealized aspect of ourselves. The challenges that they bring to us, the disappointments that ensue are all a part of our experience. (and, like it or not, our children's experiences as well)... I have found that letting go of expectations and even holding myself back from them a bit... Allowing them to come to us when they feel so inclined, is my best tool for dealing with an otherwise hurtful scenario. Also, I have come to embrace the "family" that IS involved. To appreciate my immediates. Those I can ALWAYS count on. Some are blood relatives, some are in-laws, but some are the truest form of family, the ones who we choose and who choose us in return! Those friends and loved ones that we just can't go a day without.<br />I know you have a sound support system (growing everyday). Try to remember it is not you and the kids who miss out. The "in-laws" will either realize or they won't, either way, it is THEIR loss.<br />You and your family are lovely. And you deserve to feel considered and cared for. People who crush your spirit need to be kept at arm's length from our hearts.<br />Love you.<br />Sara<br />p.s.<br />If they insist on showering one child with attention while ignoring both or either of the other two, I would speak up. I would suggest that they treat the children equally as they are equally as worthy of love and they each mean so much to you and Roman. If they can't do that then I may request they refrain from bringing gifts, period. Good luck mama!mwr2sbrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02222923943849918392noreply@blogger.com